How To Control Your Emotions

So, first of all, let’s discuss what I mean by “how to control your emotions.”

Scenario 1: You deal with unwanted hormones that cause you to do or express things that you do not want. For example, you may be going through a tough time in your life, and you feel like crying, but when you are alone or in front of someone, you can’t resist the pain, and eventually, you break down and cry.

Scenario 2: Another scenario could be that you have something on your mind, and by accident, you tell someone and later regret it, suffer a lot because of your actions.

Scenario 3:Lastly, you may see people around you happy while you’re the only one suffering, and this self-isolation makes you feel sad.

So, you want to get rid of these disgusting emotional issues!

First, let’s come to reality and think about this problem. You want a solution for how you can get rid of emotions and be so stable that no matter what happens in your life, it doesn’t affect you at all.

My answer to that is, it is not possible to completely get rid of or control your emotions. It’s like asking for a medicine that will make you never sick in your life. Come on, as long as you are alive, you will get sick. After death, no one gets sick. As long as we are alive, we have all kinds of emotions, feelings, and thoughts. If you understand this, then that is the solution. There are no other solutions.

Now that we are in reality, aside from emotions…

How to resist sharing your thoughts and keep yourself silent:

You have some thoughts that you don’t want to think about or share in conversations.
The number one solution: write about it on a piece of paper, tear the paper, burn it, and throw it away. This will create an illusion in your mind that you’ve gotten rid of the obstacle or problem, and it will no longer haunt you. You’ll end up keeping it to yourself and won’t express it to anyone.

How to control your emotions in relationships:

First, prioritize your feelings and importance in relationships that matter the most. Prioritization differs for different people. Make a list of your wants and a list of things that doesn’t affect you much. By doing that, if something negative happens that doesn’t fall within your priorities, you can forget about it and you should not care.

We speculate about our problems, and if you calmly analyze it, you’ll realize you have many imaginary speculations about someone, but they don’t follow the ideals or philosophies you think about them. You may feel someone is arrogant, but they may not be. You may feel someone is rude, but perhaps they just get hyper when talking about certain things. So, break your speculations and get rid of thoughts that don’t matter in your life.

Sometimes, we suffer from certain emotions but never go deeper to understand why this problem is happening. Let’s break it down. We have emotions like feeling deeply for someone, but that person doesn’t care. You don’t think, analyze, or go deeper into the situation. Maybe that person is too shy to express their feelings. Prioritize what’s important in your life and in your relationships. Think about what matters most. Sometimes we fight over problems that aren’t really problems if you analyze them. But if something negative happens within your priorities, you should take action. Fight for the cause that harms your priorities. If you overlook it, something worse may happen, which could destroy your whole life. Think deeply and take ethical action. But in general, we fight over emotions that don’t have solutions, which ends up making us depressed. So, think about this once again.

How not to let emotions control you:

This is very serious and crucial. You can adapt to your environment and make changes, but what about your inner world? I mean deep inside you. Maybe you love someone, but no one outside knows about it. Maybe you tried your best but failed to achieve something. These may be small things, but they matter so much that you feel like crying or wiping your tears. That’s the most dangerous pain. If we share emotions and cry, we’ll feel lighter. But if you cry alone, then it’s a serious issue.

I’ve got only one solution that works for me and will work for everyone. Motivation is just a lie. It’s a psychological trick, invented to influence workers. If you are interested in something, you don’t need external motivation to pursue it. If you like someone or want to achieve something, you don’t need motivation to chase after it. You will naturally go after it. What do I mean? I mean, 90% of the time, you get stressed, depressed, or anxious because of illusions, scenarios, or speculations in your mind. We already talked about this. So reverse the game. If your mind is playing with you, play with it. In your imagination, give yourself fake hope to get rid of emotional issues. Say you’ve failed in a business and lost a lot of money and friends. You’re alone in a corner of your room. Don’t think of yourself as having failed (even though you did). Instead, imagine you made the business successful and donated all your money to an orphanage. Or imagine that in the future, you will achieve your goals. I know these are fake, and they may never happen. But just think about it. It will motivate you to work again rather than sitting in the corner of a room. If you can’t be happy in real life, be happy in your imagination. And if you’re happy in real life, suffer in your imagination. This is an extremely deep philosophy. Our brain doesn’t know the difference between reality and fiction, but you do. Keep fooling your brain and make progress. Remember, when you’re lagging behind, no one is there to help you except yourself. Be your savior, even if you have to force yourself to be. This is the only thing that can save you. No magical stuff is going to help. If you believe in God, think of it as a test. I hope you understand and got the idea.

To be honest, if you think deeply, you’ll realize that the whole universe is just an illusion. From the Big Bang to AI, everything is merely an illusion. Controlling emotions shouldn’t be a necessity, but to regulate other behaviors, mastering emotions becomes essential. Here are some genuine and powerful tips:

Tip 1: Listen to music:

Listening to enthusiastic, serious music can capture our mind for a moment. Over time, it gets embedded in our unconscious mind. The type of music we listen to depends on our taste and language…

In the end, the last and most important point is that the more we suffer, the stronger we get. Life never gets easier; we just get stronger. I could talk about this for hours, but I’ll leave it to you because I want you to learn from your mistakes and suffering. If you learn through suffering, it stays with you forever and works accurately. Theoretical philosophies don’t work if you don’t understand or feel them. Now, think about what’s going on in your life, analyze it, and solve it. I’m glad to leave you with a happy and hopeful mindset that you’ll overcome your problems. If you want solutions to specific problems going on in your life, just comment below, and I’ll reach out to you. Bye then!